When people say ‘You’re too intense,’ they don’t give it a second thought. Why should we internalize other people’s observations?
Today, I’m going to discuss people telling you, “You’re too intense,” or “Why do you always have to be so deep?”
Does that happen ever to you? If you have any ideas on this or if you are the person telling people they are too intense, please, take a few seconds and jot down your ideas in the comments section below and what we’ll do is toss this around, and, as they say, ‘start a conversation.’
The first thing is that when people say, “You’re too intense,” (or whatever), they’re actually giving us a gift. Instead of bailing on us, they’re being intimate…it’s a beautiful thing—an act of trust.
They are sharing their truth and we might reject that.
Secondly, consider the source. Is it coming from someone who’s always critical, someone who’s analytical or might be in a bipolar depression themselves?
Remember, they are the ones feeling the intensity, not you.
And the third thing…is getting rid of “The Committee.”
I have a committee in my head and it makes all sorts of noise, judges and talks. When things happen in my life, it goes the whole time. It lives in yesterday, worries about yesterday; forecasting my futures like I’m a stock share or something-—completely throws TODAY in the garbage can. I don’t want to live that way anymore.
So, I’m going to a mindfulness class to get a handle on pressing the mental ‘DELETE’ key (on the committee).
There are lots of ways to experience life, and I’ll admit I’m a bit on the rambunctious side. I live hard, try hard, work hard and play hard. Yeah.
My name is Allison Strong and on behalf of bp Magazine for Bipolar’s bphope.com community, I want to hear from you in the comments section below…
And for now, Ciao!