Calling 911 and Talking to the Police

What should you do in an emergency?

Control Yourself – don’t shout into the phone or at arriving officers or medical professionals. They can’t understand you if you shout.

On the phone: Be ready to give concrete examples of the dangerous behaviors and to support your contention that the person is mentally ill. For example, say, “My daughter pulled a knife” as opposed to “My daughter wants to kill me.”

State over the phone the following information and be ready to repeat it to arriving police officers and/or medical professionals:

  • Your name.
  • Your address.
  • Family member’s name.
  • Your relationship.
  • That the person is mentally ill and give the diagnosis.
  • State whether medications are being used, whether it was stopped and when was the last time the meds were taken.
  • Describe what your family member is doing now.
  • Say whether you feel threatened.
  • Say whether your family member is hearing voices or fears someone.
  • Say whether a weapon is in the house — to minimize further agitation, remove any guns from the house before the police arrive
  • Say where inside the house is your family member
  • Say whether there is a history of violence

Until professionals arrive, you must STAY CALM and:

  • Be polite, respectful, reassuring, low-key and direct with your family member.
  • Maintain on-going communication directly with the person and do not include others in side conversations.
  • Do not try to trick or deceive your family member.
  • Avoid immediately moving in close or touching the person unless necessary.
  • Remove all objects with which a person may do harm to self or others.

When professionals arrive:

  • Have all the lights on inside the house.
  • Identify yourself.
  • Carry nothing in your hands especially coming outside to meet them, in which case walk, don’t run to meet them.
  • Don’t ramble.
  • Be prepared to repeat the information you gave over the phone.
  • State whether there is a history of suicide attempts.
  • State whether your family member is violent or delusional.
  • Have treating psychiatrist’s phone number handy.
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